An unexpected pregnancy can bring the world to a halt, especially for a teenager. All of the sudden, you’re asking serious questions about your future.
Who can I confide in? Where can I go to get help and support? Which pregnancy option is best for me? What are my rights as a pregnant teen?
We understand how overwhelming it can feel, but you’re not in this alone. Pregnancy Help NYC is here to answer your questions and support you from your first pregnancy test to your final decision. Keep reading to learn more.
How Do I Know if I’m Pregnant?
If you think you might be pregnant, the first thing to do is take a pregnancy test and receive an ultrasound.
But, what if you can’t afford a pregnancy test right now? What if you want to be as discreet as possible? Pregnancy Help NYC provides free pregnancy tests and free ultrasound referrals, so you can confirm your pregnancy in a compassionate, confidential environment. You are welcome to bring a parent or loved one, or come alone—whatever makes your experience more comfortable for you.
All of our teenage pregnancy resources are 100% confidential. We will never tell anyone about your testing results or your visit with us.
Do I Need My Parents’ Permission for an Abortion in New York?
In New York, minors can receive an abortion without their parent’s consent or notification[1]. However, you may feel that your parents deserve to know that you’re pregnant or want their help as you navigate the decision process. If you feel safe to do so, you may want to tell them once you’ve confirmed your pregnancy at Pregnancy Help NYC.
How Do I Tell My Parents That I’m Pregnant?
We get it—telling your parents that you’re pregnant can be one of the most nerve-wracking moments of your life. It can be hard enough to process your own feelings, let alone put them into words. Below are some tips to help you get started:
- Consider Your Options. While you don’t have to make a decision right here and now, it’s wise to start thinking about which pregnancy option would be best for your future. Need a safe, nonjudgmental place to explore your options? Consider visiting Pregnancy Help NYC. Our team of client advocates is here to answer all of your questions regarding abortion, adoption, and parenting.
- Confide in Someone You Trust. If you’re unsure of what to say, confide in someone you trust first. They may be able to help you process your thoughts and feelings and put them into words. You could even practice the conversation with them to calm your nerves.
- Get Straight to the Point. When it comes time to share the news, get to the point. Delaying the nature of the conversation may cause tension and make each of you feel more anxious. You can be as straightforward as: “I have something difficult to tell you. It’s not what I planned, but I’m pregnant.”
Your parents will probably have questions. They may want to know how long you’ve been sexually active, how far along you are, or who the father is. These questions can seem accusatory, but they likely come from a place of concern for you. Remember, they’re hearing shocking news for the first time, so try to answer as calmly as possible and allow them time to process. If you feel your parents are open to knowing more about how you feel about your pregnancy, share with them the pregnancy options you are considering.
If you’re concerned that either of your parents may react violently to the news, please reach out for help. Our patient advocates will be able to help you get to safety if you’re experiencing abuse at home.
Teenage Pregnancy Resources in New York, NY
Finding out that you’re pregnant as a teenager can be scary, but have hope that there are people and resources available to help you. Pregnancy Help NYC provides free teenage pregnancy resources, so you can get the confidential care you need to make an informed and empowered decision.
Call us at (212) 243-7119 or schedule your appointment online today. All services are confidential and free of charge.
Please be aware that Pregnancy Help NYC does not provide or refer for abortion services.
Sources
- Abortion is Legal and Protected in New York State. New York State Office of the Attorney General. (2022). Retrieved from https://ag.ny.gov/sites/default/files/abortion-laws-english.pdf