If you have found yourself in this position, don’t worry, we are here. If your girlfriend, wife, or the girl in your life is pregnant, you likely have a lot of questions. There is a chance you’re asking yourself the following questions or having these thoughts:
- My girlfriend is pregnant, what should I do?
- My girlfriend is pregnant, what are my options?
- My girlfriend is pregnant, do I have a choice in what we do?
- My girlfriend is pregnant, can we get an abortion?
- My girlfriend is pregnant and I don’t want to be with her.
- My girlfriend is pregnant and I don’t want it.
- My girlfriend is ………
You get it. And, we are here to answer the questions and meet with you and your girlfriend. There are many things the both of you need to know, but first a few things we would really ask that you keep in mind in this situation:
- Your girlfriend needs support and someone to listen to. If you feel that you are too close to the situation, or aren’t sure what to even say without getting upset, she or the both of you can contact our center for your options and to get more information to make a knowledgeable decision about your pregnancy.
- It is absolutely acceptable for you to feel overwhelmed and scared. These feelings are natural, and we understand that you have many big feelings right now. Just try to stay calm.
- Don’t make a rash decision. A quick decision could result in doubt later on. Make sure you understand all of your options.
Here are a couple more notes of quick advice to help you and your situation in this moment:
- DO:
- Try to listen to your girlfriend. A lot of times women really want to talk about their feelings. Just as you are feeling stressed, she is feeling that way and then some. Just try to give her some support and listen to what she has to say. Please remember, we can always help her. We can educate and inform her of all of her options in a safe, no judgment, no cost environment.
- Talk about it. You have feelings too. Feel free to be open and honest about how you’re feeling too.
- DON’T:
- Walk away and leave her alone. You are just as involved in this decision as she is.
- Make a rash decision without being informed and educated with all of your options.
The Pregnancy Help center has resources to help you and your situation. We understand that your situation is unique and we are here to serve you. We have men who are here and available to talk to you about your specific situation.